Sunday, December 30, 2012

Ways To Resolve Your Frustration Without Blowing Up At Those Around You

By Marisol Guy


It is not uncommon to experience frustration. This is an emotion that tends to arise unbidden when people are challenged by their circumstances, an activity or an environment. Overreacting to this emotion, however, can have very detrimental effects on a person, his or her lifestyle and reputation. Following are a few helpful strategies for alleviating frustration without blowing your top.

Identify the true source of this emotion and avoid projecting. More often than not, people are at issue with themselves when they act out negatively or in anger towards others. Take some time to consider where your anger is actually arising from and then deal with this, rather than responding negatively to others who share your environment.

Give yourself a few minutes to get yourself under control, whether through deep breathing or getting outside for a bit. It can be helpful to have a change of environment when you are trying to collect yourself. If you have become agitated while performing a certain activity, take a break. You can return in a much more effective state after you have taken some time to refresh your mind and your mood.

Learn whether you are expecting too much from yourself. Sometimes people have very high expectations of themselves and they leave absolutely no room for personal error. If you expect yourself to be perfect, you are probably applying those same high standards to everyone else around you. You must be fair to both yourself and those who share your life. Humans make mistakes and they are never perfect. Understanding this will help you to avoid a lot of unnecessary agitation.

Look deep into yourself and see if there is something you are trying to hide. People can have habits that they are unable to control and which they are not very proud of. These are things that these individuals often tried to hide, even though they are likely to come spiking up to the surface in time.

One example of this is people who are very neat and obsess over the smallest messes as the resulting feelings of stress and anger are not actually related to the physical environment. These individuals are usually trying to create a physical space that is dramatically different from their inner shame and turmoil. When you try to make peace with yourself and your perceived faults, you will not need to always be in control of your external environment.

There are times, however, when people must start making positive changes in their lives in order to avoid blowing their fuses over seemingly minor issues. People start feeling frustrated over little issues that they know are within their ability to control, even as they internalize problems that they find overwhelming. Instead of letting the little things rile you up, you should start finding proactive and practical ways to begin addressing the underlying issues that are the true source of your anger.

Frustration is an emotion that all people will feel at one time or another. If you feel this way too often or get carried away in your response to this emotion, you may need to start proactively addressing the issues that are causing this emotion to arise. Doing so will help your social and professional lives and will make you a much more enjoyable person to be around.




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